Have you ever said to someone else, "I need a change in life"? If you haven't admitted it to the person next to you, then I guarantee you're said it to yourself. Great! We agree you would like to make some changes in life... now what? First there's usually some experience or genuine shift in awareness and understanding (that "ah-ha" moment of how we arrived at this place in life). This could be a relationship, lifestyle, physical health, emotional health, finances, career, etc.

While you ponder this new experience, also keep this in mind, "perception is reality." To expand on that: your perception is your reality and Mary's perception is her reality. Genuinely making the effort to see things from someone else's perspective is the beginning of the change you're looking for. Oh, of course the other aspect is the honest acknowledgement of what you need to do differently and how it needs to be accomplished. Don't waste any time beating yourself up for not having this realization sooner, just get ready to move forward!

Here's a classic example of what I mean by this: I'm now aware I simply eat too much food and/or the wrong types of food. I'm acknowledging that I need to change right now, I've created this problem for myself and I'm the only person who can fix the situation. The consequences for not changing my eating habits would mean continuing to be overweight (fat); feeling frustrated about the way I look and feel and certainly moving myself closer to a health condition like diabetes and a heart attack.

This process works for any area of life when you need a change. Career, family, health, relationships, goals and your overall happiness will move in the right direction as soon as you take action with your new realization.